We all want to be the best parents we can be for our children, but there is often conflicting advice on how to raise a kid who is confident, kind and successful. Throughout the circus act of parenting, it’s important to focus on balancing priorities, juggling responsibilities and quickly flipping between the needs of your children, other family members and yourself.
Modern Parents want to get the most out of life, which means that they want to be the best parents possible to their kids – while not disappearing as individuals in the process. I have found that these parents don’t want to “take a break” from their lives just to raise their kids – they want to pursue their passions and hobbies in tandem with being a parent. In fact, Modern Parents have begun to see the value in modeling this self-improvement mentality to their kids because they want their kids to grow up pursuing passions and pursuits of their own.
The 5 core areas that Modern Parents deal with everyday. These core areas are:
1.Using effective discipline strategies that work with our Modern Kids,
2.Creating a balance between life commitments and family time that brings out the best in us as individuals and as parents,
3.Deriving contentment and satisfaction from the family, regardless of whether or not the family structure is traditional, nontraditional, or something in between,
4.Surviving and thriving during periods of crises or change as the family develops over decades together,
5.How to use technology to parent more efficiently, while at the same time teaching smart and safe technology use to or kids.
Sometimes it is good to have traditional parenting, because remember you are what you are just because of what your parents taught you. Had they not given you the freedom to explore, you would still be avoiding risks. So let’s look at things which you can put into practice immediately.
1.Allow freedom to explore – Give your child the freedom to explore things. There are so many things for child will learn by doing things on his own. I remember travelling alone in trains in my eighth grade. It surely boosted my confidence. I wonder how many parents will be willing to take this risk today.
2.Don’t be a watchdog – Give your child the freedom to socialise. Believe in your own parenting roles and family values. Believe your child will not take wrong steps or venture in the wrong direction. Even if the child does, quickly get him back on track.
3.Engage the child in conversation – Have an open and friendly conversation with your child during dinner and bedtime. The child will love that he is being treated as an equal and his views are being listened to. Be a traditional parent along with modern. Remember your parents and how they would have handled a situation. Ask if your parenting is going to help the child grow as a great human being, an alpha man or if you are slowly drifting away from them.
As your child develops, the challenges will change, and your thinking may evolve, but your approach should be consistent, firm and loving. Help your child learn through experience that making an effort builds confidence and helps you learn to tackle challenges. Calibrate your expectations about what your child is capable of doing independently, whether you have an infant learning to sleep through the night, a toddler helping to put toys away, or an older child resolving conflicts.
Remember, there is no one right way to raise a child. Do your best, trust yourself and enjoy the company of the small person in your life.
Why is a Positive Parent-Child Relationship Important?
The Parent-Child Relationship is one that nurtures the physical, emotional and social development of the child. It is a unique bond that every child and parent will can enjoy and nurture. This relationship lays the foundation for the child’s personality, life choices and overall behaviour. It can also affect the strength of their social, physical, mental and emotional health. Some of the benefits include:
1.Young children who grow with a secure and healthy attachment to their parents stand a better chance of developing happy and content relationships with others in their life.
2.A child who has a secure relationship with parent learns to regulate emotions under stress and in difficult situations.
3.Promotes the child’s mental, linguistic and emotional development.
4.Helps the child exhibit optimistic and confident social behaviours.
5.Healthy parent involvement and intervention in the child’s day-to-day life lay the foundation for better social and academic skills.
6.A secure attachment leads to a healthy social, emotional, cognitive, and motivational development. Children also gain strong problem-solving skills when they have a positive relationship with their parents.
7.A good parent doesn’t have to be perfect. No one is perfect. No child is perfect either … keeping this in mind is important when we set our expectations. Successful parenting is not about achieving perfection. But it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t work towards that goal.
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1.Warm, loving interactions – Treat every interaction as an opportunity to connect with your child. Be a warm in your expressions, give eye connect, smile and encourage interaction.
2.Problem Solving – Help your child to problem solve. Be a good role model and show them how to behave through your own actions. When you work with your children to find solutions they learn how to deal with difficulties in a appropriate way.
3.Practice Kind And Firm Positive Parenting – Give your child positive experiences. They will have the ability to experience positive experiences themselves and offer them to others.Give your child negative experiences. They won’t have the kind of development necessary for them to thrive. Sing that silly song. Have a tickle marathon. Go to the park. Laugh with your child. Ride through an emotional tantrum. Solve a problem together with a positive attitude. Not only do these positive experiences create good connections in your child’s brain, but they also form the memories of you that your child carries for life.
4.Be A Safe Haven For Your Child – Let your child know that you’ll always be there for them by being responsive to the child’s signals and sensitive to their needs. Support and accept your child as an individual. Be a warm, safe haven for your child to explore from. Children raised by parents who are consistently responsive tend to have better emotional development, social development, and mental health outcomes.
5.Listen and empathise with your child – Acknowledge your child’s feelings, show them you understand, and reassure that you are there to help them whenever they have problems.
6.Have boundaries, rules & consequences – Children need structure and guidance. Talk to your children about what you expect of them and make sure they understand.
7.Do Not Spank, No Matter What – No doubt, to some parents, spanking can bring about short-term compliance which sometimes is a much-needed relief for the parents. However, this method doesn’t teach the child right from wrong. It only teaches the child to fear external consequences. The child is then motivated to avoid getting caught instead. Spanking your child is modeling to your child that he/she can resolve issues by violence.Children who are spanked, smacked or hit are more prone to fighting with other children. They are more likely to become bullies and to use verbal/physical aggression to solve disputes. Later in life, they are also more likely to result in delinquency and antisocial behavior, worse parent-child relationships, mental health issues, and domestic violence victims or abusers
Strengthening the Parent-Child Relationship
Forming a connection with your child is important to developing a strong parent-child relationship. Here are some tips to help with strengthening your relationship with your children.
1.Tell your child you love them – Of course you love your children but tell them every day, no matter what age they are. Even on difficult days let your child know you didn’t like the behavior but you love them unconditionally. A simple “I love you” can do a lot to strengthen a relationship.
2.Play together – Play is so important to children’s development. Young children can develop many skills through the power of play. As well as it being fun and helping you develop your relationship with your child, it can help children’s language skills, emotions, creativity and social skills.
3.Be Available – Make time to talk to your child without any distractions, even 10 minutes a day can make a big difference in establishing good communication habits. Turn off the TV, put away technology and spend some quality time together.
4.Eat meals together – Eating together as a family sets the stage for conversation. Encourage no technology at the table and enjoy each other’s company.
5.Listen and empathise – Connection starts with listening. Try and see things from your child’s perspective and foster mutual respect.
6.Spend one on one time with children– If you have more than one child try and make a point of spending individual time with each of them. Quality, individual time with your child can strengthen your bond, builds their self-esteem and lets them know they are valued.
The good thing is, although parenting is hard, it is also very rewarding. The bad part is the rewards usually come much later than the hard work. But if we try our best now, we will eventually reap the rewards and have nothing to regret.
To Happy Parenting!